Serious Matters Part Two

Today I visted my mom's home. Only reason is because she wasnt home and that pool tho. While I did have a good time it left me taken back by flashbacks. So here we are again with a topic that is to serious for most of my readers.

Trigger warning: Rape, Sexual Assult, and other things of that nature. If you are uncomfortable with this topic thank you for trying to read this but please click away. Stay safe oh and i mention my abuse. If you dont wanna hear that, bye.

Here we are again talking about Rape Culture. Now this is a sensitive topic for me, but I think my case isnt nearly as bad as most. I feel lucky. I dont even believe in luck. Now for me I understand dressing apporiately. I understand not wearing booty shorts or wearing shirts that show off clevage. But I am a teenager. Im learning to love my body but do you understand how hard that is to do when I am told to cover up. How offended I was when my mom told me my shirt was inappropiate, when I was wearing a long sleeve sweatshirt that was off the shoulders. That I am confused when people freak out when my bra strap showing like its the end of the world because a teenage girl is wearing a bra...
I understand that. Okay but the momment when you blame someones rape or assult on what they are wearing I will rain fire on you.

Now, Im going to base the off "boys will be boys" but please understand boys go through the same thing, boys have their struggles that we as a society oppress. I am not belittling them, I am just focasing on once again "Boys will be boys"

Teaching these girls
Hey dont drink to much, watch who pours your drinks
Hey pull down the skirt, Youre showing to much boobs
Hey walk in groups make sure you are never alone
Hey make sure you have pepperment spray within reach
Hey make sure you keep your keys between your fingers ready to attack

"If you’re promoting changes to women’s behavior to “prevent” rape, you’re really saying “make sure he rapes the other girl."

 Why are we focasing on teaching women to prevent rape than teaching the men (yes, i know its both but focasing on the above" not to rape.

From what I learned in my sexual abuse

I was abused while I was naked
I was abused while wearing a crop top and shorts
I was abused wearing just my underwear
I was abused wearing my underwear, a tank top, shorts, and over all of that a onesie.

It is not about what you are wearing if they want it bad enough they dont care. Yes, it is proven that they will look for an easy target. Yes, being drunk might up your chances. But if it was about what we are wearing rape would greatly and when I say greatly i mean GREATLY increase in summer rather than winter. But it doesnt. Yes, it increases slightly but cant we say thats because more people are out and about, out of school, away from protection.

Okay. I am not saying that we should stop teaching prevention for sexual assult.
Im not saying that just teaching "Hey, dont rape"
But we cannot just stand by. I dont know, write a blog, speak your truths. Because this is sad. Idk i lost my thought. Im tired.

TTFN💙